RANT | siLL33gUrL on Xanga

I thought this was a nice little entry.  I never knew what a "flake" or being "flaky" means, now I know.

Nobody likes someone who does not mean what he says and does not keep his own promises.  I mean, the person's image and credibility just goes down the drain after a couple of incidents like that.  I for one will lose my patience soon enough with someone like that.

Sadly though, I myself am guilty many times of not keeping my promises to others, whether it is just hanging out, to exercising, to doing someone a favor, etc etc.  Reading this entry does make me feel embarrassed.  Not that I did not know I was wrong, and not that I did them out of malice or even intentionally majority of the time, but I just showed lack of respect to others as well as immaturity and lack of self-discipline.

What I realized is that I sometimes say things in an ideal situation that I oftentimes find hard to really follow through.  I am a perfectionist at heart, and it is not until recently that I have gradually learned to compromise with myself and cut down on the desire to get everything right, even at the expense of timeliness.  As the American proverb says, I bite off more than I can chew, and more often than not, I choke when it comes time to follow through.

It is yet another reminder to myself that it is time for me to start showing some respect to other people's time, as well as being more responsible for my own words and promises.  Flaking is just an outer manifestation of lack of self-respect and self-discipline, and when a person does not respect himself, then, well, other people wont respect him either.  Why should they?

So at the end of the day, it is extremely important to say what you mean and mean what you say.  It shows maturity, character, reliability, and determination.  Show respect to yourself, and other people will follow suit.  Respect has to be earned before it can be demanded of others.

*To myself* So Bubba, don't be a flake!